I’m a 42-year-old male and had always expected to be married with children by now, but after several long-term relationships I’m still single. I keep busy so I’m not lonely, just tired of being alone. Any thoughts?
There are 3 thoughts that I’d like to impart: First, while you would love to be married with children, this may not happen for you. Acceptance is key here. Accepting that life hands us challenges that aren’t fair, and piss us off, and make us want to sit on our pity pot and whine all day, is the part of life and living that, simply said, “Sucks”! Do whatever you need to find acceptance that this is your (current) lot in life. Release your frustration in the gym or go smash some golf balls; then seek acceptance by going inward…dare I say meditation and yoga?
Second, live your life for now. Make it enriching, exciting and self-fulfilling. Ponder the benefits of being single, such as, not having to answer to anyone else, not getting in trouble (like your married friends) for eyeing an attractive woman or spending money on yourself. I guarantee that there are elements of your life your married friends envy!
Finally, don’t give up on love. Analyze your leisure activities to see how available you are making yourself to meeting women. Let your family and friends know that you are still looking for love as they may think you are content with the single life. If you haven’t been winning at love, change your game. Make meeting women and dating a priority project and approach it as you would a business venture. You know the drill…just do it!
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- Where can you go inwardly and outwardly to find acceptance?
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- How will you change your game to win at love?
Joan Jerkovich, BCC
Board Certified Life Coach
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