Using A Guy You’re Dating?

Is it wrong for me to keep going out with a guy that I know I will never be serious with? He’s good looking and OK to go out with because I enjoy the attention and nice dinners out, but I know he’d like our relationship to be more.

Tee Hee…haven’t women been doing this forever? Haven’t we all gone on dates with guys we really weren’t that into (isn’t there a book by that name?) just to have a nice dinner out or see the latest movie at their expense?

Listen, the way I see it, he gets to enjoy your lovely company for the evening! Besides, I can make you a list a mile long of women I know who dated a guy FOREVER (I’m talking 5-10 years) hoping that he would marry her. Then, when she finally breaks up with him, in a matter or days, he’s bedding someone else and sometimes even getting married to the new chick?!?

I say, have your fun for a while, but don’t crush the poor guy by leading him on for too long.

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  • How will you know when it’s time to level with the guy and tell him, “I’m just not that into you”?
  • Or…If you like going out with him are you really more into him than you want to admit?
  • What are your personal standards for treating another person with decency and respect, while also respecting yourself in relationship?
Joan Jerkovich, BCC Board Certified Life Coach

Joan Jerkovich, BCC
Board Certified Life Coach

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