I have 2 months to prepare for a culinary exhibition at a prestigious school. I work at a popular restaurant that keeps me on my toes and a wife who does as well. My wife doesn’t work but stays home with our dogs. I’m fine with it except she is always making demands.
This week she wants to re-arrange all our furniture. Last week she wanted to organize the garage. The problem is she usually gets halfway through the job and quits. She then expects me to finish even though I’m stretched very thin with the restaurant.
I realize she’s bored, but I can’t be adding projects to my list this close to the exhibition. Every time I tell her how busy I am she gets defensive and acts like I don’t love her. I absolutely cannot cancel the exhibition. How do I keep my wife off my case?
My, my, my, aren’t you married to a petulant princess?!
It’s time for your wife to grow up.
When she starts a job, it’s her responsibility, not yours, to finish it.
Let her get defensive.
Turn a deaf ear to her “you don’t love me” antics.
Don’t allow her defensiveness to manipulate you in to doing things you don’t have time for.
Don’t let her steer you off course from your career.
Her boredom is not your responsibility.
A mature married woman would be thankful that you are working hard to support the family, her and the dogs, without expecting her to work outside the home.
A mature married woman would show you support instead of placing demands on you during this busy time in your career.
I will say it again…your wife needs to grow up!
Show her this blog and if she figures out that this question was written about her, you can expect her to get defensive and whine and moan.
Expect that she could carry on with her whining and moaning for days.
Let her.
Just hand her a tiara and step her in front of a mirror. Maybe she’ll get the hint to take a good look at herself…or maybe not.
Joan Jerkovich, BCC
Board Certified Life Coach
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