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11 Ways To Not Let Your Exes Flirting Annoy You?

Joan Jerkovich - June 30, 2015 10:11 pm

My Ex husband ogles other women in front of me, and I think he does it just to annoy and aggravate me.

We’ve been legally separated for years but still spend time together with our daughter. I don’t leave him alone with her.

The only reason we’re not divorced is that we can’t afford it. I know he’d take me back in a heartbeat but I’m done with him.

When he flirts with other women in front of me my first thoughts are “Are you for real” and “what a fool, do you really think they’re interested in you?”

Just hearing his voice aggravates me. He’s so annoying. He knows his flirting aggravates me. What can I do about it?

Here are 11 things you can do when your Exes flirting starts to annoy you:

  1. Pull out your acting skills
  2. Don’t let him see that his flirting bothers you
  3. Keep a smile plastered on your face
  4. Keep your body language soft
  5. Don’t go rigid and tense up
  6. If you need to, distract yourself
  7. Pull out your smart phone
  8. Pretend to read through your texts
  9. Walk away from the situation
  10. Leave him to flirt all he wants…
  11. Out of sight, out of mind

Try these tips when he starts flirting in your presence. They can keep you from feeling frustrated, and if he doesn’t see you reacting negatively, he may stop flirting in front of you all together.

Do you think he’s doing this just to make you mad or jealous? Probably, so don’t give him what he wants. Stay calm and nonreactive.

The bigger issue here may be why, if you’ve been separated for years, you’re not legally divorced. Even though you say you can’t afford it, we do find money for the things we really want.

Other issues may be why you don’t think he can spend time alone with your daughter. Explore options for allowing them their father-daughter time alone, or with someone other than you “supervising” their visits. Even court ordered supervised visits don’t expect that supervisor to be the Ex-wife. They are usually a family member or friend. Things are just too toxic between Exes.

Think about how this tension between you and your Ex affects your daughter. Is this good for her?

I know I may be reading between the lines here, but I read that you are having issues with letting go of this relationship. Either that or you are a controlling person. If either of those factors are relevant, look in to resolving issues on both those fronts as you make decisions that best serve your daughters needs. Good luck with your acting!

2 Dads talk about their divorces this weekend on “The Joan Jerkovich Show”. Listen for the Dad who says his wife turned his daughter against him. And, the Dad who’s kids don’t understand why their Mom and Dad got divorced, as they get along so well as Exes! Listen also, for what parents can do to help their children cope with their divorce.

Joan Jerkovich, BCC Board Certified Life Coach

Joan Jerkovich, BCC
Board Certified Life Coach

The Joan Jerkovich Show
News Radio 1150 KSAL
Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST
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