A girl I met at the gym has turned into my workout buddy. I’d like to ask her out, but I’m not sure she see’s me as anything more than just a friend. I’ve never dated much so don’t know how to approach her.
This is one thing a lot of girls just don’t understand about guys…they think you just want to be their friend, when in reality, you guys just want to get in their pants. (Don’t groan as you read this because you know I’m right on this one!)
What you need to do is find your male confidence and swagger. Change the way you interact with her. Send her “potential date” signals by flirting with her; compliment her, look her in the eye, keep the conversation focused on her, and find ways to casually touch her.
Keep things light and playful. Observe other guys who seem to easily send out these types of signals to women and copy some of their moves until you find your own signature style.
You’re going to have to buck it up and ask her out on a date. When you do ask, use the word “date”. Say something like, “Jenny, I’d really like to take you out on a date, how about dinner Saturday night?”
Let’s dissect this way of asking her. First, when you use her name it will really get her attention. Second, when you use the word “date” you make it clear that you hope to be more than just friends. Third, while most first dates should be brief, such as meeting for coffee (it gives you both a quick escape if needed), this is a girl you’re already friends with so plan something memorable.
Taking that first step is always the hardest because we all fear rejection. It’s part of the dating game and no one’s a winner every time. Whatever her answer, I’m sure you’ll be able to deal with it~including the nervous anticipation when she says, “Yes!”
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