Ever since I was young, I have had this message running through my head that “I’m not good enough”. When I look at all I have accomplished and the person that I am, I realize that this message isn’t true. What can I do to improve my self-esteem?
Thank you for this question because I get so many Life Coaching callers who tell me that they believe the mistakes they’ve made in life, the poor choices they have made, resulted from their low self esteem. When they recognize this fact, this is always a solid starting point to change the perceptions they espouse in regard to themselves.
One habit that is often revealed in their calls, is that they constantly talk down to themselves. Often, I hear them say that the things they say to themselves in their head they would NEVER say to anyone else! One caller named his self talk(er) his inner Bully!
Self-talk is key to self-esteem. Change your negative self talk to positive by first becoming aware of what you say to yourself, about yourself, via your private iTunes Playlist running through your mind.
One way to recognize negative self-talk is to notice feeling down, upset, discouraged, or frustrated. When that “icky” feeling hits, slow down enough to listen to what you are saying to yourself.
Once you recognize your negative self-talk try these strategies: scold it, talk back to it, shut it down or tune it out. On the positive: replace it with positive comments, affirmations and self-praise.
Don’t play that~but I must be humble~game with yourself here! You deserve to tell yourself how incredible, amazing, superhuman and superdivine you are! It is Our honor to share this space on earth with You!!
Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~
- What strategy will you implement to begin to “hear” your self-talk?
- What actions can you implement to help you in tune out or turn the dial on your negative Playlist?
- What activities do you find bolster your self-esteem and how can you incorporate more of these activities into your life?
- Who can you count on to tell you what a super special person you are? (Spend some time with them soaking in their unconditional love and acceptance~I trust you will leave dripping with positive self regard!)
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