My son graduated this year and I’ve been a mess this whole past year just thinking of him leaving for college. I’ve been one of those moms who helped with all the school events and was really involved. I’m not dealing with this very well. This empty nest thing is already worse than I thought. How am I going to get through this?
This can be really tough on moms, and some dads have a real tough time with this as well. You will get through this, even if it means having a good cry each day for a while! Give yourself the space and time to process this change.
As you let go be mindful that your college student will let you know how much support they need from you their first year away from home. Listen for their cues; some want to hear from you every day and others will tell you to quit calling so often. Continue to support them as you always have, but give them their independence if they’re ready.
Approach this change with a positive outlook! Look at this transition as a time to re-create yourself and your life. Use this opportunity to focus on that hobby you set aside, or take that class you always wanted to take. Marriages are often revitalized once the last child leaves home. I know of many couples that see this as their opportunity to travel. I had a friend send me flowers with the simple note “Enjoy” when our youngest left home. After the initial unrest subsides, I expect that you will come to enjoy your newfound freedom! Enjoy!
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• What can you do to show kindness and empathy toward yourself (yes!~yourself!) as you go through this difficult time?
• What helps you deal with stressful events?
• What activities can you plan to get involved in to help you “let go” of your primary mothering job?
• What have you been neglecting doing for yourself, your friends, your health, your outside interests?
• How will you incorporate some of these neglected items back in to your life?
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