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Work with Ex?

Joan Jerkovich - December 9, 2013 7:23 am

My work situation involves being around my ex-boyfriend and working closely with him. We ended on bad terms, and it’s awkward to be around him. How do I relieve that tension?

It is reasonable to expect that you won’t easily relieve the tension you feel working with your Ex, at least not for some time.  I know that’s not what you wanted to hear, but I’m sure that if I tried to tell you that there was a sure-fire way to make these awkward feelings go away you would know that I was just spouting off some BS!  Falling in love is all about opening our hearts to let someone else in.  When you do this, you place yourself in a position of being emotionally vulnerable.  This vulnerability is the basis for the hurt of a breakup and the tension you now feel post-breakup.

The fact that you can work at all with your Ex is a testament to your professionalism.  While at work, keep your focus on the task at hand.  Monitor your thoughts and try to keep them on work and off the relationship muck.  Don’t let on that being around him bothers you (even if it does).  “Fake it till you make it” does help reboot your mindset and will help you deal more effectively with him on the job. Healing from a broken heart takes time and it can be more difficult if you have to always see him because you don’t have the benefit of that saying, “out of sight, out of mind”.  Look to heal from this relationship by treating yourself to those things that have helped you heal from past disappointments be that journaling, counseling, a random hookup, or pulling a bitch session with your girlfriends. Since you have to work with him, know that you can always show him up on the job, outperform him and go for the promotion so you can be his boss and fire his arse!  Yeah!

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