Sex After Divorce?
Joan Jerkovich - February 11, 2014 7:00 am
I’m a middle-aged guy who just got a divorce. I just started dating this girl and really want to have sex with her. I’m out of touch with dating, how will I know when it’s time to make my move?
Of course you want to have sex with her. Sooner versus later I’m sure. What I wonder is if you see this woman as a potential relationship or just a quick tryst? Answer that question and you’re on your way to deciding when the time is right to “make your move”.
If a hook-up is mostly what you’re after, here’s what my social research, if you call reality TV social research, will tell you. While I’m the first to admit that I watch too much reality TV, what I’ve garnered from this socially relevant resource is that by today’s standards you aren’t supposed to even Kiss on a first date. The next thing I’ve learned from reality TV is that even though it’s not OK to Kiss on the first date, it is OK to have sex on the second! I can’t say how many times I’ve heard a reality TV girl act like she has high moral standards as she says, “I don’t kiss on the first date”. Keep watching, and the same girl will then have sex with the guy on the second date! Go figure!
Let’s review: First Date = No Kissing Allowed; Second Date = OK to have SEX!
Not your grandmother’s code of morality! What I want you to consider from that factoid is that if a girl will sleep with you on the second (or first) date, she will also sleep with the next 30 or 40 guys on the first date as well. Again, ask yourself…are you interested in this woman for a fully connected emotional and physical relationship or is she someone you don’t see a future with? If you see relationship potential, follow the mantra of “Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger where she says, “No Sex before Monogamy!” Take Patti’s advice and your odds of finding the woman who will be faithful to you will be greater if she does not bed you on the first, or second, date. How do I know this? I talk to the guys who’ve been cheated on.
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• Dude, do you really need to ask me when the time is right to make your move? How will you reclaim your mojo?
• Are you willing to brave some missteps along the way toward becoming more comfortable again in the dating world?
• What do you want from dating at this time in your life?
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