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Friend Went Missing?

Joan Jerkovich - January 28, 2014 7:00 am

I kept trying to call and text my friend for 6 months and he would never get back to me. I was worried about him because I know he sometimes get really depressed, plus I knew he’d just lost his job. He finally called with lame excuses, lost his phone, etc. I think his drinking may be part of this but I’m not sure I still want him for a friend.

We all need and want friends like you! His loss if he just threw your friendship away like this! Few friendships can survive this type of “dropping off the face of the earth”, especially when his absence put you through so much anxiety over his well-being. You may care more for his welfare then he does and I think your concerns about his drinking and depression point to the crux of the issue. We can be there for our friends, but if they don’t want our help there’s nothing we can do for them. Decide how much of your heart you want to put back in to this friendship. It’s been trampled with his inconsiderate, intentional absence, so decide for yourself if you want to continue to reach out or let him come to you.

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  • What does your heart tell you to do with your friend?
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  • How has your friend shown signs of wanting or needing your friendship to help him deal with his depression and drinking, if at all?
  • What does staying tapped in to this friendship mean to you personally?
  • What would walking away from this friendship, or distancing yourself, mean to you?

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