What is the proper way to tell someone that you don’t like them texting all through dinner when you’re out together? I hate confronting people. It always makes me feel uncomfortable.
There are 3 ways you can approach this confrontation:
- Use the “Direct” approach by asking:
• That’s rude ! Who taught you manners?
• Are you going to text all through dinner?
• I don’t like it when people text through dinner.
• Could you please hold your texting until after dinner?
• I guess I don’t count here since you’re ignoring me?
• Does that text you’re sending matter more to you than spending time with me?
• Do you know that I refuse to go on a second date with someone who texts while we’re out? - Or, you can use the “Passive” approach:
• Ignore their texting
• Don’t bother confronting it if it really doesn’t bother you - Or, you can use the “Indirect, Passive Aggressive” approach:
• Do more texting than they are
• Make sure they have to wait for you to finish texting to get your attention
I don’t recommend the Passive Aggressive approach, but do what makes sense to you. In some groups, such as teenagers, texting when out together is the norm and to be expected. Only you can decide how to handle this situation! Text me when you figure it out!
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- What approach makes sense to you
- Are you willing to gracefully accept the consequences of which ever approach you take?
- What is the standard for the group you hang out with? Texting or no texting?
- What are your personal standards for when you’re out alone with someone?
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